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David Bates's avatar

Nice essay Johnathan, and I was struck by this word formulation: "From a bio-psycho-social-spiritual perspective the notion that women’s lower aptitude for chess is just biological ceases to make sense, but the claim that biology is not relevant at all looks equally foolish." It reminds me of problem solving and how women tend to be process oriented while men tend to be outcome oriented. It is one the first experiential lessons taught to people training to become telephone counselors at LifeLine here in Sydney, Australia.

While this form "making better sense of the real rather than presumed differences between men and women is not just a parlour game: it is a frontier for a revitalised civilisation," reminds me of John Verveake's "we are comprehensively prone to self-deception," and the need to question 'how' that process works within each and every one of us, to solve the puzzling nature of our self-defeating sense of reality.

May I offer some quotes I believe are worthy of consciousness contemplation:

"All this time we have been repeating the words 'know,' 'understand.' Yet we do not know what knowledge is," ― Plato.

"Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one. An optical delusion of consciousness, a kind of prison for us." — Albert Einstein

"The delusion is extraordinary by which we exalt language above nature." ― Alexander B Johnson, A TREATISE ON LANGUAGE

"For people to comprehend their conditioned self-deception scheme, they must try not to impose a perceptual expectation of mind-sight on the perception capacity of eye-sight." ― Daniel Goleman, Vital Lies, Simple Truths, The Psychology of Self Deception

"The attempt to regulate affect - to minimize unpleasant feelings and to maximize pleasant ones - is the driving force in human motivation." ― Alan N Schore, Affect Regulation & the Origins of the Self

The quotation from Affect Regulation & Origins of the Self can be related to Iain McGilchrist's favorite pre-Socratic quote about a river I believe, as the non-conscious river of affective judgment that our conscious sense of reason floats upon. Because, I believe, we are the most adaptive creatures on this planet and all our behaviors are no less subconsciously orchestrated than any other creature despite our species sense of superiority and the stiff-necked sense of reason more prominent in outcome oriented men.

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Kathryn Kang's avatar

Your chess memoir is a favourite book of mine. It has been a wise companion through my tenuous, late-lin-life engagement with the game.

It is wonderfully refreshing to read your take on complexity of difference between women and men.

Now here's a question. It's about the art of balancing an acceptance of life as the flow that it is, as against a drive to change the flow. Is it women, is it men, or is it neither group, that shows mastery -- so-called -- in that art?

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